Dear Abby: My husband’s young crush is back in town, and I’m not supposed to say anything

San Jose Mercury - 22 min 58 sec ago

DEAR ABBY: When our son went to college years ago, he traveled all summer with a school-sponsored ministry singing group. The members were four young men and women, all smart, attractive and talented.

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I stopped going to his concerts because my husband became attracted to one of the young women. She was very outgoing and annoying. I didn’t mind letting my husband go alone. After they all graduated, I thought I’d never see her again.

Now, all these years later, she’s a missionary, and the church we attend is sponsoring her, so I have had to see her once and I’ll probably have to see her again.

I know to keep quiet about it because my husband says he doesn’t want to hear it. I don’t honestly think his thoughts are inappropriate. I just think he’s not aware of how obviously attracted he is to this young woman.

I don’t act that way toward other men, even if they are attractive. Maybe especially if they are attractive.

I wonder if other women experience this and how they cope.


DEAR SLIGHTLY JEALOUS: This situation occurs with both husbands and wives. They cope in different ways. Some make a joke out of it. Others make a point of accompanying their spouse whenever they know the “crush” is around.

Nowhere in your letter did you state that this younger woman is attracted to your husband or a threat to your marriage. He’s old enough to be her father.

Obviously, you have talked to him about it, or he wouldn’t be telling you he’s sick of hearing it. Be patient and let the torch subside. Eventually, she will be transferred to another ministry, and you will be rid of her once again.

DEAR ABBY: My mother and I are super close. I consider her my best friend. My brother, not so much. He ignores my texts and calls, and I know of any news about him only via our mom.

My parents divorced when we were very young. When my father passed recently, he left me a decent-sized inheritance and my brother $500. (They were estranged.) I took the inheritance and the equity in my house, bought a new one, and need to finance only a small amount to remodel.

Mom doesn’t understand why I didn’t share my inheritance with my brother and says she doesn’t want to talk about it anymore. I am excited about my upcoming move and the furniture shopping and remodeling. It’s killing me that I can’t talk to my best friend about it.

I tried explaining that giving money to my brother would be taken out of my loan, which I would have to repay with interest. She doesn’t want to hear it. Can you give me some advice?


DEAR MISSING: You were not obligated to share your inheritance with your brother. If your dad had wanted his estranged son to have the money, he would have left him more.

Your excitement and wanting to share all the details about buying and decorating your new home is understandable, but because your mom prefers you keep them to yourself, abide by her wishes. She may be your “best friend,” but she is also your brother’s mother and is entitled to her opinion about the inheritance money. It is OK for the two of you to disagree about this.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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Nikki Haley and Tim Scott Clash at the Second GOP Debate

N.Y. Times - 39 min 53 sec ago
For months, Nikki Haley and Tim Scott have been polite to one another on the campaign trail. That ended in a fiery way on Wednesday night on the debate stage.
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Four-bedroom home sells in San Ramon for $1.6 million

San Jose Mercury - 41 min 49 sec ago
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A house located in the 3000 block of Montevideo Drive in San Ramon has new owners. The 1,886-square-foot property, built in 1977, was sold on Aug. 18, 2023, for $1,550,000, or $822 per square foot. This two-story home presents a roomy floor plan, featuring four bedrooms and three bathrooms. On the exterior, the home features wood shake roofing / shingles. Inside, there is a fireplace. The property is equipped with forced air heating and central A/C. In addition, the house provides an attached two-car garage, granting ample space for parking and storage purposes. The property’s backyard is further enhanced by a pool.

Additional houses that have recently been sold close by include:

  • On Oakham Drive, San Ramon, in October 2022, a 2,750-square-foot home was sold for $1,600,000, a price per square foot of $582. The home has 4 bedrooms and 3 bathrooms.
  • In August 2022, a 2,989-square-foot home on Dorset Court in San Ramon sold for $1,975,000, a price per square foot of $661. The home has 3 bedrooms and 3 bathrooms.
  • A 1,886-square-foot home on the 400 block of Kevin Court in San Ramon sold in August 2022, for $1,550,000, a price per square foot of $822. The home has 3 bedrooms and 3 bathrooms.


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Pava LaPere Killing: Suspect Jason Billingsley Arrested

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The murder of Ms. LaPere, who founded EcoMap Technologies, shocked Baltimore’s business community.
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As thaw accelerates, Swiss glaciers lost 10% of their volume in the last 2 years, experts say

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A Swiss Academy of Sciences panel is reporting a dramatic acceleration of glacier melt in the Alpine country, which has lost 10% of its ice volume in just two years after high summer heat and low snow volumes in winter.
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Oakland rookie has shot at first big league win ruined by Twins rally

San Jose Mercury - Wed, 09/27/2023 - 23:21

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MINNEAPOLIS — A’s rookie pitcher Joey Estes had a shot of earning his first major league victory ruined by a blown save from fellow rookie Kyle Muller. Two innings later, the Twins’ Trevor Larnach ruined Oakland’s chance for a win.

Larnach, a former College Park High of Pleasant Hill star, broke an eighth-inning tie with an RBI double to help Minnesota rally to beat Oakland 6-4.

Estes may not have gotten the win, but the 21-year-old right-hander impressed A’s manager Mark Kotsay after allowing just three runs in 5 1/3 innings in his second big league appearance.

“I think he got some swing and miss on the fastball in the first outing,” Kotsay said of Estes, who was acquired two years ago from Atlanta in the Matt Olson deal. “Tonight, he got swings and misses on all of his stuff, which is a great sign. This kid is a competitor. You can see the way he’s out on the mound. He’s got a presence about him.”

Twins designated hitter Ryan Jeffers, who hit a tying two-run homer in the sixth off Muller, followed with a sacrifice fly that scored Larnach and Minnesota won for the sixth time in seven games.

MINNEAPOLIS, MINNESOTA - SEPTEMBER 27: Trevor Larnach #9 of the Minnesota Twins hits a go-ahead double in the eighth inning of the game agains the Oakland Athletics at Target Field on September 27, 2023 in Minneapolis, Minnesota. (Photo by Stephen Maturen/Getty Images)MINNEAPOLIS, MINNESOTA – SEPTEMBER 27: Trevor Larnach #9 of the Minnesota Twins hits a go-ahead double in the eighth inning of the game agains the Oakland Athletics at Target Field on September 27, 2023 in Minneapolis, Minnesota. (Photo by Stephen Maturen/Getty Images) 

After Max Kepler opened the eighth with his fourth hit of the game, Larnach sent a 1-1 pitch from Dany Jiménez off the wall in right field that evaded a leaping Esteury Ruiz. Pinch-runner Andrew Stevenson scored from first. It was the 41st come-from-behind win of the season for the AL Central-champion Twins (85-73).

“That’s a pretty sweet moment for him and for us,” Minnesota manager Rocco Baldelli said of Larnach. “In that inning, we had some interesting things going on. We take Kep out of the game. Normally, we’re not going to take Kep out of the game. But when you have a chance to get him out, he’s got four hits, put in a very good baserunner to do some things and then we get to hit Larnach in a good spot for him and he took advantage.”

The loss dropped the Athletics to 48-110, and Oakland became the first team to lose 110 games since Arizona and Baltimore in 2021. Also, it is the highest number of losses for the A’s since the 1916 Philadelphia A’s set a franchise record by going 36-117.

Minnesota’s Dallas Keuchel (2-1) worked 1 2/3 innings of relief and earned the win. Griffin Jax stranded a pair of runners in the ninth and picked up his fourth save of the season.

Jiménez (0-2) allowed two runs on two hits in his inning of work for Oakland, which has lost 11 of 13 games.

Former Minnesota outfielder Brent Rooker drove in two runs, including an RBI single in the fifth, to put the Athletics ahead 3-2. Oakland had trailed 2-0 early against Twins starter Pablo López.

Rookie Edouard Julien led off the bottom of the first with his 15th homer of the season for the Twins.

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López went 4 1/3 innings in a planned shorter outing in his final start of the regular season. The 27-year-old right-hander will start the first game of the playoffs for the Twins.

After coming over in the offseason in a trade with Miami for Luis Arraez, López finishes his season with a career-high 234 strikeouts, which is second in the AL to Toronto’s Kevin Gausman (237) and the most in a season for Minnesota since Johan Santana had 235 in 2007.

“After I struggled early in my career to have a full, lengthy season, I’m really happy that I’ve been able to do so in back-to-back years,” López said. “Really important to me to do it in my first year with the Twins.”

Twins: The team hosted a simulated game at Target Field on Wednesday morning with several injured players participating in hopes they’ll be ready for the playoffs. Royce Lewis (left hamstring strain), Carlos Correa (plantar fasciitis), Byron Buxton (right hamstring strain) and Joey Gallo (left foot contusion) all took part.

Former A’s RHP Sonny Gray (8-8, 2.80 ERA) will start the final home game of the regular season for Minnesota on Thursday afternoon, with Oakland starting RHP Luis Medina (3-10, 5.64). Gray, who is second in the AL in ERA behind New York’s Gerrit Cole (2.63), will start the second game of the playoffs. Medina will be making his final start of his first season in the majors and hasn’t earned a win since July 18.

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Second Republican Presidential Debate: Key Takeaways

N.Y. Times - Wed, 09/27/2023 - 22:30
The party’s front-runner took few hits as his rivals bickered, Nikki Haley delivered an assured performance, Tim Scott reasserted himself and Ron DeSantis took his first debate swipes at Trump.
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None of the Republicans on the Debate Stage Are Going to Topple Trump

N.Y. Times - Wed, 09/27/2023 - 22:28
Judging by Wednesday night, they’re not even trying.
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The woman who torched Wyoming’s lone, full-service abortion clinic is about to be sentenced

Seattle Times - Wed, 09/27/2023 - 21:50

A woman who says anxiety and nightmares led her to set fire to Wyoming’s only full-service abortion clinic is scheduled to be sentenced Thursday.
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San Jose Sharks defenseman injured in preseason loss to Anaheim Ducks

San Jose Mercury - Wed, 09/27/2023 - 21:37

The San Jose Sharks scored first before they allowed four unanswered goals and had a veteran defenseman leave the game due to injury in a 4-2 preseason loss to the Anaheim Ducks on Wednesday at Honda Center.

Forward Justin Bailey, in Sharks camp on a professional tryout, scored a power-play goal at the 9:36 mark of the first period as he collected a rebound in front of the Anaheim net and beat Ducks goalie Lukas Dostal. But Anaheim responded with even-strength goals by Pavel Mintyukov, Chase De Leo, and Brett Leason, with Leason’s goal at the 8:16 mark of the second period giving Anaheim a 3-1 lead.

Brock McGinn then scored for Anaheim just 23 seconds into the third period, as Sharks goalie Georgi Romanov allowed four goals on the first 19 shots he faced.

Nathan Todd scored for the Sharks with 13:35 left in regulation time for San Jose (1-2-0), which also lost 4-2 to the Ducks on Tuesday at SAP Center.

Sharks defenseman Radim Simek was hurt with just under four minutes left in the first period and did not return.

Simek, 31, skated up to defend forward Nikita Nesterenko inside the Sharks’ zone on a Ducks rush and the two players collided. Simek’s left leg appeared to be injured in the collision, and he wasn’t able to put much weight on it as he remained on the ice for a few seconds before he went to the bench and limped down the tunnel to the Sharks’ dressing room.

There was no immediate word on the seriousness of Simek’s injury.

Late in the third period, Sharks winger Filip Zadina was shaken up after he was hit from behind by Ducks forward Alex Killorn.

Sharks forward Adam Raska also had to leave the ice midway through the first period after he was struck in the side of the face by a shot from the point inside the Ducks zone. Raska, though, was able to return in the second period and finished with four shots on goal in 8:41 of ice time.

Simek’s five-year NHL career has been beset by injuries, starting with ACL and MCL tears in his right knee in March 2019. Last season he was hampered by concussion issues and played only 44 of 82 games.

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Injuries have been a story for the Sharks in the first week of training camp. Captain Logan Couture is considered week-to-week with a lower-body injury and fellow forward Fabian Zetterlund is day-to-day, also with an undisclosed lower-body ailment.

The Sharks’ preseason continues Saturday night at home against the Los Angeles Kings. After that game, the Sharks are expected to make more cuts to their training camp roster, which right now sits at 54 players.

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SF Giants give Padres first extra-inning win of 2023, must sweep Dodgers to avoid losing record

San Jose Mercury - Wed, 09/27/2023 - 21:36

SAN FRANCISCO — The only thing separating the Giants and Padres for much of this season, at least until the clubs began moving in opposite directions this month, was their success, or lack thereof, in close games and extra innings.

Luck plays a large role in these types of games, and finally in Game 159, it was on the Padres’ side.

Winless in its first 12 extra-inning contests of the year, San Diego was given a gift to start the 10th inning, with the speedy Trent Grisham placed at second as the automatic runner. Grisham used that speed to advance to third on a ground ball to short, then raced home on a fly ball to Mike Yastrzemski in right field.

A bloop off the end of the bat of Manny Machado fell in front of Austin Slater, scoring two more against John Brebbia, and that was that.

With a 5-2 loss, the Giants fell to 11-5 in extra innings and San Diego improved to 1-12. San Francisco must now sweep the Dodgers this weekend to avoid finishing the season with a losing record. They will start the final series of the season in fourth place, overtaken by the Padres, who took two of three this week.

The Giants have finished with a winning record once — 107 wins in 2021 — under Farhan Zaidi and Gabe Kapler and now risk a fourth-place finish in the NL West for the first time under the current regime.

Here are a few takeaways:

1) Big finish for Big Sean

Sean Manaea’s late-season surge won’t lead the Giants into the postseason, but it could lead to a substantial payday this offseason.

Manaea’s night ended on a tough note, serving up a game-tying home run to Garrett Cooper, but will go down as his second straight quality start. In four starts since returning to the rotation he has yet to give up more than three runs.

After mostly pitching to contact during an efficient seven shutout innings last week at Dodger Stadium, Manaea employed a different formula for his six-plus innings of two-run ball Wednesday evening. He sent down eight Padres via strikeouts, matching a season-high, while recording 19 swings and misses.

Manaea lowered his ERA to 3.44 in 29 appearances since his initial move to the bullpen — 2.25 in four starts since returning to the rotation.

The Giants fell to 31-24 when their starter goes at least six innings.

Now, imagine a full season’s worth of these kinds of starts from Manaea, and where the Giants might be. If he declines his $12.5 million option for 2024 and re-enters the free agent marketplace, another team may be thinking just that.

San Francisco Giants' Thairo Estrada (39) hits a solo home run against the San Diego Padres in the second inning at Oracle Park in San Francisco, Calif., on Wednesday, Sept. 27, 2023. (Nhat V. Meyer/Bay Area News Group)San Francisco Giants’ Thairo Estrada (39) hits a solo home run against the San Diego Padres in the second inning at Oracle Park in San Francisco, Calif., on Wednesday, Sept. 27, 2023. (Nhat V. Meyer/Bay Area News Group)  2) Unique opposition

Between Tyler Rogers’ submarine motion, his opposite-handed identical twin and Ryan Walker’s crossfire motion, the different looks the Giants present out of their bullpen have garnered plenty of attention around the league. One thing they lack: A knuckleball.

There is only one pitcher in league that regularly throws the funky pitch, and he started Wednesday night for the Padres.

Kapler was teammates with one of the game’s all-time knuckleball artists, Tim Wakefield, but passed along some advice on hitting the pitch via another former teammate, Hall of Fame second baseman Alan Trammell, who was nearing the end of his career when Kapler was coming up through the Tigers’ farm system.

“Try to take the ball out of the catcher’s glove,” Kapler said. “Really, really allow the ball to travel so it’s made all its moves before you decide if you’re going to swing or not.”

Who knows if Thairo Estrada heeded that advice in his first at-bat, but he put a good swing on one of Matt Waldron’s knuckleballs to get the Giants on the board in the second inning. Waldron’s 2-1 offering danced over the middle of the plate, and Estrada whacked it over the left-field wall.

With his 14th homer of the season, Estrada matched his total from 2022 and, with a stolen base the eighth inning, became the first Giants player to pair that with at least 23 stolen bases since Andres Torres in 2010. The last Giants infielder to finish a season with those totals was Joe Morgan in 1982.

By the way, the best knuckleball on the Giants? Catcher Patrick Bailey, according to those who have played catch with him.

San Francisco Giants' Tyler Fitzgerald (49) steals second base against San Diego Padres' Xander Bogaerts (2) in the fifth inning at Oracle Park in San Francisco, Calif., on Wednesday, Sept. 27, 2023. (Nhat V. Meyer/Bay Area News Group)San Francisco Giants’ Tyler Fitzgerald (49) steals second base against San Diego Padres’ Xander Bogaerts (2) in the fifth inning at Oracle Park in San Francisco, Calif., on Wednesday, Sept. 27, 2023. (Nhat V. Meyer/Bay Area News Group)  3) Wheels

Tyler Fitzgerald brought a unique skillset to the Giants when he was called up last week.

That was probably never more evident in his stat line than on Wednesday night.

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Fitzgerald reached base twice, including a bloop shot into right field to drive in the Giants’ second run, and turned both trips to first into doubles with his speed. He stole second base both times, making him only the second Giants player to steal multiple bases in a game this season. The other? Brett Wisely, all the way back in May.

The trio of steals brought the Giants’ season total to 57, a dozen fewer than the next-closest team (Colorado) and less than two individual players (Ronald Acuña Jr., Estuary Ruiz). Even their leading base stealer, Estrada, hadn’t swiped two in a game, nor has speed to match Fitzgerald’s.

Fitzgerald was clocked at 29.5 ft/sec on his first stolen base, putting him in line with what is considered elite speed. The only other Giants to reach that speed this season, according to Statcast, have been Bryce Johnson (10 times), Wade Meckler (8) and A.J. Pollock (once).


— The Giants have yet to announce their pitching plans for their final series of the season, this weekend against the Dodgers, but Kapler said that Logan Webb and Kyle Harrison should both make their final starts of the season. Harrison (illness) was scratched from his most recent start. Webb has thrown the most innings in the majors and has put himself in the conversation for the National League Cy Young.

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At US Antarctic base hit by harassment claims, workers are banned from buying alcohol at bars

Seattle Times - Wed, 09/27/2023 - 21:33

From Sunday, workers at the main United States base in Antarctica will no longer be able to walk into a bar and order a beer, after the federal agency overseeing the research program decided to stop serving alcohol.
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Five arrested in connection to South Seattle home invasion robberies

Seattle Times - Wed, 09/27/2023 - 21:16

Seattle police Chief Adrian Diaz said the department is working with the King County Prosecuting Attorney's Office to assess whether the hate crime standard is met.
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Chinese Hackers Stole 60,000 State Dept. Emails in Breach Reported in July

N.Y. Times - Wed, 09/27/2023 - 21:03
The disclosure by department officials to Senate staff members revealed the scope of the hack of government email accounts managed through Microsoft.
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Nashawn Breedlove, Rapper Who Dueled Eminem in ‘8 Mile,’ Dies at 46

N.Y. Times - Wed, 09/27/2023 - 20:34
He drew praise for his scene in the film, in which he belittled Eminem’s character with sarcastic lyrics, a gruff voice and an imposing presence.
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Fetterman in a Tie: The Senate Revokes Casual Dress Code

N.Y. Times - Wed, 09/27/2023 - 20:05
A week after the top Senate Democrat announced a more casual standard for dress in the chamber, a bipartisan pair won passage of a measure requiring that business attire be worn.
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As Seattle Targets close, shoppers question if crime really is to blame

Seattle Times - Wed, 09/27/2023 - 19:48

Target cited crime concerns when it announced that its small, 5-year-old stores in Ballard and the U District will close. Some shoppers and community members aren't buying it.
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Studios and Striking Actors Will Resume Talks on Monday

N.Y. Times - Wed, 09/27/2023 - 19:23
The two sides announced the step a day after the leadership of the Hollywood writers’ union approved a tentative deal that ended its monthslong strike.
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In a Sartorial About-Face, Senate Reverts to Tradition on Its Dress Code

N.Y. Times - Wed, 09/27/2023 - 19:08
A week after the top Senate Democrat announced a more casual standard for dress in the chamber, a bipartisan pair won passage of a measure requiring that business attire be worn.
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Four-bedroom home sells for $7.7 million in Saratoga

San Jose Mercury - Wed, 09/27/2023 - 18:30
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A 5,401-square-foot house built in 1989 has changed hands. The spacious property located in the 22000 block of Rolling Hills Road in Saratoga was sold on Sept. 12, 2023, for $7,700,000, or $1,426 per square foot. This two-story house offers a capacious living environment with its four bedrooms and six baths. The property is equipped with forced air heating and a cooling system. In addition, the house is equipped with a four-car garage, accommodating vehicles and storage needs efficiently.

Additional houses that have recently been purchased close by include:

  • In September 2022, a 3,480-square-foot home on Arrowhead Lane in Saratoga sold for $5,125,000, a price per square foot of $1,473. The home has 4 bedrooms and 4 bathrooms.
  • A 2,850-square-foot home on the 21700 block of Prospect Road in Saratoga sold in May 2023, for $3,950,000, a price per square foot of $1,386. The home has 4 bedrooms and 3 bathrooms.
  • On Parker Ranch Road, Saratoga, in April 2023, a 4,549-square-foot home was sold for $4,650,000, a price per square foot of $1,022. The home has 4 bedrooms and 4 bathrooms.


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